You deserve to be happy. You already have so much to be thankful for, and together with finding joy in the present moment and welcoming wonderful opportunities in your life, you can find true happiness.
But what if you aren’t satisfied with your life? How can you know what’s wrong?
Here are some signs of unhappiness to watch out for:
1. You constantly go back to the past.
Living in the past leads to being unhappy. Once you go there, you start reliving past situations, usually negative ones.
You have regrets, are disappointed, feel upset and thus ruin your present moment.
But hey, what’s done is done. You can’t change it, but there’s something more practical you can do with it – take the lesson and move on. This way you can guarantee your happiness in the present and future, and that’s what really matters.
2. You expect too much.
Do you find yourself expecting others to behave in a certain way? Or wanting life to turn out the way you wish?
Well, things usually turn out differently. And if you expect too much, you end up disappointed. That’s another sign of unhappiness you should be careful about.
Luckily, you can do something about it right away by simply letting go of all expectations, and replacing them with acceptance and finding contentment in the present moment.
3. You always want more.
Those with many desires are never satisfied, simply because the moment they get something, they are after something else. That’s not success, that’s greed most of the times.
So many people want the latest product out there, more money, more friends, a bigger house, to go out every day, to be like someone else, etc.
That makes them focus on what they don’t have in their life. And according to the law of attraction, it doubles.
Stop that. It’s one of the signs of unhappiness you’d better notice early on, before it gets worse.
Realize that you already have a lot. Stop daily to thank for it. Then, set goals and go after them, but only if it’s something you truly want.
4. You haven’t found your passion.
A happy life is a passionate one. It may be a childhood hobby, something you love doing with friends, a way to spend your time when you’re alone, or a side hustle project you’re working on that has the potential to turn into a business.
Whatever it is, you need to find your true passion and follow it.
5. Not finding reasons to smile.
According to happy people, one of the biggest signs of unhappiness is not smiling daily.
Look around you. There are plenty of things to smile about. Find one reason daily for a start and make sure you appreciate it. Be it the nice weather, the chance to be doing what you love, an opportunity that knocked on your door, a great book you’re reading, a compliment you received, a good deed you did, or else.
6. No one in your surroundings is truly happy.
How can you be happy if you’re surrounded by negative people?
Make sure you find positive ones instead and spend as much time with them as possible. Get rid of the toxic ones in your life, and find inspired souls looking to connect with other optimists.
Related: Habits of Happy People
7. You never take action.
If you’re constantly wishing for things to happen, or even waiting for opportunities to be given to you, you won’t really achieve anything in life. And if you’re not moving forward, going after goals and getting 1% better daily, you can’t find meaning and contentment either.
So if you want to get rid of another one of the signs of unhappiness, set a goal today and take a tiny action related to it.
8. Making too many plans.
Look out for this too.
If you live in the future, you may start living in an illusion too. We tend to fear what might happen tomorrow, or to expect different things from what life has planned for us.
Also, it’s possible to lose yourself in dreams and never actually do something about them today.
Be careful not to fall into that trap. Practice mindfulness and go back to this moment, where you can actually take action to build a better future.
9. Always being in a bad mood.
One of the more obvious signs of unhappiness is complaining all the time, being negative about everything, not seeing the good in people, always wanting to do something else instead of your current activity, etc.
Usually, that’s an attitude towards life. It’s for people who can never appreciate anything, and no matter what happens to them, they’ll see it as bad and will want something else, will blame life or others, will complain, will make excuses.
To make sure this doesn’t happen to you, find ways to be positive in daily life. Read inspirational books, listen to encouraging podcasts, talk to positive and successful people, visualize yourself living a happy life, count your blessings every morning, find things you enjoy and do them daily.
There are many signs of unhappiness to watch out for. But happiness is just around the corner, waiting for you to embrace it.
Full-time freelance writer. Lifestyle designer.
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