Bad things happen. But they pass. And new stuff happens after that.

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If we decide to hold onto the previous event, and relive it again and again in our heads, we won’t be able to experience the new things life has planned for us.

Don’t take things too seriously.

Some people let one tragic event ruin their whole life. They never move on. Instead, they create their own hell and live in it every single day.

But what’s the point of that?

Should one failure, loss, bad relationships, disease, lost job or another problem define us for the rest of our lives?
Of course not.

Things are permanent. So don’t take them too seriously.

There are things you can prepare for, moments you can take action in, situations you can make the best of and opportunities you can take.

But when something’s already happened and there’s nothing you can do about it, just let it be and move on.

Time heals everything.

Realize that and it will take you much less time in the future.

If you know misery, disappointment, bad feelings and depression are permanent and you’ll eventually get back on track, then you won’t waste so much time feeling sorry for yourself, having regrets or missing someone.

Bad things pass. And life goes on.

And you either move on with it, or stay stuck in a past experience and keep ruining your present moment.

Learn to let go.

You can be present and live life to the fullest only if you leave the past behind.

Letting go means being okay with things as they are, focusing on the now and not thinking about anything else.

This way you make place for new things to happen, and let in freedom, peace and contentment.

What has already happened doesn’t need to exist in your now. So let it stay in the past. Take a lesson, become stronger and look forward to what lies in store.

This moment is the only place where you can do something about your future. Nothing else exists.

I think it’s crucial that we become present and learn how to be mindful of our current activity.

That’s how you enjoy life. That’s where you find happiness.

“…no amount of thinking can eliminate the wonder and pain of living. No wall or avoidance or denial—no cause or excuse—can keep the rawness of life from running through us. While this may at times seem devastating, it is actually reassuring, because while the impermanence of life, if fixed on, can be terrifying, leaving us preoccupied with death, the very same impermanence, if allowed its infinite frame, can soothe us with the understanding that even the deepest pain will pass.”
Mark Nepo, Book of Awakening

See also:

“This Moment”  – my eBook on living in the present moment and letting go of past and future – you can get it for free
Going with the flow
The painful beauty of impermancence
The origin of our suffering
The power of the present moment

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Lidiya K

Author, blogger and podcaster in the fields of self-improvement and life hacking. Creator of Let's Reach Success.
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  1. this post really hit me. it’s weird… i know exactly what you mean, about now, and the power of the present moment. i even wrote my own blog post about it. it’s tough though, sometimes you lose sight of things and get caught up in the details, forgetting the big picture….

    1. That’s exactly why we need to learn how to stop, be present and aware of what’s going on and see the bigger picture.
      It can become a habit if you work on it enough.

  2. I think learning to let go of the past is one of the most important skills that you can learn. Everything that we’ve ever done is in the past and cannot be changed. The only thing we can do is learn from it and move on. Staying in the past means taking our energy away from the present. I agree that it’s much better to just move on. Live life for the now.

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