5 Types of People You Don’t Need in Your Life Anymore

The harsh truth is that there are toxic people in your life.

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And no matter how used to them you are, no matter how many years you’ve known each other, you know very well that they aren’t the best company.

And if you’ve set some big goals that requite hard, focused work every single day, or if you just want to change your habits, improve, become a better person and fill your days with high priorities, you’ll have to ditch people like that.

And then, you’ll find new ones – optimistic, like-minded people, who are ambitious, talk about ideas, are creative, help and listen to others, and have a bright future and a great way of thinking.

And just by being around them, you’re more likely to succeed in your own endeavors and lead the lifestyle of your dreams.

So here are the types of people that you don’t need in your life:

1. Complainers.

Some people just complain. All day. Every day.

They think the world is unfair to them, the weather is awful, they won’t make it on time, they don’t feel like going out, they need a change but can’t do anything because of certain reasons, etc.

They focus on the negatives and don’t even notice the good stuff about life.

People like that rarely change.

Yes, it would be great if you could help them see the world for the beautiful place it is, full of opportunities and exciting places and people.
But what’s more likely is that you’ll just start complaining too.

2. The ones that are with you only in good times.

These are easy to recognize, as they stick around only when you’re thriving, when you have money, when you’re happy, look and feel good, etc.

And if you eventually get back to a state where you need some support, are depressed, need some help, lost your job, or have some issues, it’s hard to hear from them.

3. Those who don’t believe in you.

It’s okay if the people in your surroundings are realistic, don’t really think big, but also don’t say anything when you try new stuff. You can put up with that.

But there are also the ones that discourage you to such an extent that you’re sure you won’t succeed before you’ve even tried.

The reasons these people are like that can be many. Often, they don’t want to see you successful, are jealous, don’t care about you or are negative and don’t believe in anyone.

But one thing is sure – you don’t need them in your life.
You’re better off without them.

4. Victims.

You can easily recognize them as they blame someone (or themselves) all the time, they are never understood, always miserable, feel like no one loves them and life is unfair.

They drag you into their own reality where no one takes responsibility for their actions and there’s always blame, judgement and comparison.

They only think about their mistakes, what they’ve lost, how bad their situation is. And the future looks even worse.

So don’t let them affect you, move on and continue your life without them.

5. People who gossip.

I mean the ones that are focused on other people’s lives. They talk about them – usually awful things, think about them, follow them online and discuss every new picture, comment, or event they see.

And the reason is mainly one – they do it out of jealousy.

Their life is not interesting enough, they envy those who are actually doing something, who are good people and respected by others, who spend their days doing stuff they love, and whose life seems exciting.

And you can be sure that they talk about you too, once you leave the room. It’s just who they are.

You can’t succeed around them. Because they speak about other people so often, that you can easily forget that there are things like ideas, events, opportunities, chances to grow and learn, etc.

So which of these do you have in your surroundings? And how do they make you feel?

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Lidiya K

Lidiya K

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  1. I have been working on this problem for years and I have done a good cleaning up. My problem is the co worker. I am so careful about what comes out of my mouth as I truly believe that just like bad food we can also eat bad words. But there are those at work that can be relentlessly stuck in whatever control drama they are stuck in. Then it is others who suffer.

    1. Then there are two approaches:
      1) ignore them;
      2) understand them. Know that whatever they are doing, there’s a deeper reason behind it. And whenever they come to you saying something you don’t like, see them as the people who’re going through bad times, who’ve got serious issues, and are actually miserable.
      And be kind to them 🙂

  2. This message came at exactly the right time. I’ve been contemplating whether or not a lifelong friend could live in one of the rooms of my house. He’s not a bad guy, but just doesn’t have the same ambitions, good habits, and way of life that I have and want more of. On the other hand, I feel like I’m one of the only people in his life that push him in the right direction. But in the end, my lifestyle is very different now and know I should get rid of all past bad influences.

    Keep up the great writing! Definitely a great read to start my day. And happy belated birthday!! I hope it was great!

    1. Thanks for the birthday wish and stopping by and reading my post.

      So glad it came at the right time for you. Hope all turns out well for you, and for your friend.

      Also, keep doing what you do to get where you want in life. It’s easy to get distracted, but you can still go back to your path and keep following it.

  3. Great post! I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as well. It is really hard sometimes to let go, though, but mostly I feel it’s hard because of guilt. But then I ask myself why I feel guilty? I’m not in this world to please other people – I’m here to please myself and create the life I want.
    The people around you are so important, because they definitely affect you more than you think. It’s always a good idea to go through all your relationship to see which ones are good for you and which ones only hurt you.

    1. Can’t agree with you more.

      That’s what I realized right before I decided not to let people control me anymore.

      Sometimes they don’t even realize it, but they affect us more than we think. And it’s time to let go so that we can move forward in our life.

  4. I so get it. For the last seven years I have had to do this. Seven years! It has been such a long time of “weeding” that my garden of friendships looks rather meager. But the people around me are true. And I’m meeting new, more optimistic people. The hardest part was letting go of family that were really killing my spirit. I loved them so much, but My Dad and his wife are also the most negative people I know. And finally, there was too much hurt. I’m working on the beginning of forgiveness now….it should be easier when I have a little more distance from them- but when I do, I will be glad to lay down finally, everything about them, but the lessons I’ve learned.
    Blessings to you Lidya!
    KaiCarra

          1. You’re very welcome. Your blog is helping me to navigate -hopefully successfully- a huge
            transition in my life. Your encouraging yet practical articles mean a lot to me.

  5. Great post! I call these people ‘toxic energy vampires’ or ‘drains’ (as opposed to ‘radiators’ – sometimes it’s hard to ‘get rid’ of them or let them down gently, however it’s so important to beware the toxifying/draining effect of these people. It’s even more important to avoid being one of them!!

  6. #AWEsome list! I agree whole-heartedly! I especially like getting rid of the complainers they are usually gossipers too. I love the picture too!

  7. Number 1 and 2 can be seen as contradicting. In one instant you say you don’t need ‘complainers’ in your life and your examples (weather etc) sound just like what somebody suffering with depression would say, then the next you say people who are only there during good times. So it’s OK for you to get rid of the complainers in your life, but you should also get rid of those who aren’t there for you when you may also be suffering with depression?

    1. Hey there,

      Thanks for leaving a comment and expressing an opinion. It’s always appreciated.

      Here’s my take on it: That article, and anything I write really, is for people who want to improve their life and be better every day. So that means the one reading will be doing his best not to be a complainer, or any kind of toxic person, before he moves onto removing others in his surroundings who aren’t good for him.
      Because those who only complain often don’t want to help themselves or change, they find comfort in negativity and it’s the easy option for them. Next, there are those who are around only when things are good – and also easy – but can’t be found when the situation gets tough. I believe we don’t need such people if we’re after bigger things in life, or at least want a little more peace of mind and finding joy in our days.

      Let me know what you think.

      Best,
      Lidiya

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