There are so many things on our minds in each moment.

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Most of them, however, are just not necessary and are ruining our present moment.

We need to realize that we can’t control the world and change it so that it can be the way we like it.

We shouldn’t be angry with the past, but let go of what has happened and make peace with it.

We often think we’ve done horrible things and deserve to be punished. But the biggest punishment is the guilt we live in.

We forget that others have done much worse, and whatever it is that has happened, can’t be changed.

Then comes forgiveness – the ultimate salvation.

It’s the solution to all of the above.

We should forgive ourselves for everything we’ve done that we don’t like, and others too.

How to forgive?

Simply realize that you and the other person are worth forgiving.

Once forgiven, we’ll let go of the need to control and will embrace uncertainty. Then life will turn into a beautiful flow and we will follow the natural course of events.

We won’t be angry with the past anymore, because we will have understood that our mistakes and failures are a result of us trying to do something. Which means we haven’t given up.

Our failures don’t define us. How we react to them in the present, however, is crucial.
And the wiser choice is to accept past events, take the lessons they were meant to teach us and move on.

Then, whatever bad we’ve done, will seem meaningless.
Because it’s never such a big deal compared to everything else going on.

We need to accept our humanity because that’s who we are – human beings with imperfections.

You can be at peace right now just by letting go – by freeing yourself of the need to be punished for what you’ve done, the desire to change things, to fix problems.

What happens when you forgive?

Forgiveness is a universal language and has so many benefits.

It helps you reach emotional and spiritual freedom and live a happy life.
It helps others because you let them continue their life in peace and let things from the past stay there.
It’s great for the world in general because it’s an element of compassion.

Forgiveness also helps us let go of guilt.

Guilt is something so many of us struggle with these days. And it’s the way we punish ourselves for what we think we did wrong.

But it’s not necessary. You can easily leave it behind and move on, instead of experiencing the past all over again.

And keep in mind that no one else can forgive you but yourself.

So let go of that guilt, together with the grudges you hold against others.

By living in guilt we create our own hell.

That’s why we need to go beyond these distractions and try to touch our true nature. Then to forgive ourselves for what was and what will be, and finally experience what is.

To do that, you must find something worthy inside you.

Most people can’t forgive because they think they don’t deserve it, or focus on the bad sides of the person who did something to them.
But the right approach is to focus on the good.

We’re all a combination of good and bad. It’s what we choose to act upon that makes our destiny.

Keep that in mind when judging others or yourself too much.

Also, be compassionate. Understand people and don’t be too harsh. Everyone has their own battles, fears and problems. So why don’t you forgive the people in your life and thus make their journey easier?

And once again, forgiveness is the ultimate salvation. Don’t underestimate its power because of its simplicity.

Just forgive, breathe deeply and move on.

Have you ever forgiven anyone? How did you feel after that?

See also:

Why it’s difficult to forgive
Let go and forgive
Inner peace
Set yourself free
Self-acceptance
Don’t let anger control your life

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Lidiya K

Author, blogger and podcaster in the fields of self-improvement and life hacking. Creator of Let's Reach Success.
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  1. Very nice. That is so important to remember that every person has their own story and history that has brought them to this present moment. Often times when someone does us wrong, it isnt even about us, but about the battle within that they are fighting. They need our forgiveness and our love.
    Great as always, Lidiya K!

  2. Very well said C.A Hare! Forgiveness is very important. Lidiya i love this post because i personally have a BIG forgiveness problem (ooh not what you are thinking! read on! 😀 )…i have someone in my life who seems to take advantage of my good heart. they do wrong, i forgive and they promise to never hurt me again and sooner or later they hurt me in some other deep way again (and sometimes don’t even humble themselves to admit they are wrong) and yet i forgive them again! lately they hurt me AGAIN in some other way & i now feel exhausted of the “forgiveness circle”….what would you do?

    1. People like that need a lesson, I’d say. Otherwise, they will keep doing what they do because they see it works.

      That’s reminds me of the case of the newborn baby. At some point it understands that someone comes to give it food or take care of it whenever it cries. So it keeps crying when it wants something.

      And in your situation you need to be not so much the one that constantly forgives (as this way you can’t help the other person grow and harm even yourself), but the one that makes the other person work for your forgiveness.

      Haven’t been in a position like that, so that’s just what came to my mind right away.

      Maybe there are many ways to do that, but as in any relationships, it’s a matter of compromises. And remind the other one of that by making it hard to forgive him this time.

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