You may be considered successful, have many things to do, and friends, and a family, and a big house. But that doesn’t mean you like the person you’ve become, feel comfortable in your skin or have confidence.

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I see so many people that look like they got it all, but when you notice the details, they don’t really feel good about themselves.
And that means they are not happy with their life.

Let’s not become them.

This is what you should do in order to have a great opinion of yourself (and thus change the way people look at you, how you perform at work, and boost your confidence):

13 Steps to Feeling Good About Yourself

1. Accept yourself.

You are who you are. You may change that soon, but at this very moment you’re that version of yourself. And before you accept it, you won’t be able to make any progress.

Accept your past, with all the mistakes and failures. They are a part of you but that doesn’t mean they will be repeated. Let what has already happened be. But it doesn’t have any place in your present.

2. Don’t let others put you down.

People will try to discourage you, talk you out of something you’re up to, tell you you’re crazy to think in a certain way, etc.

It’s your choice whether you’ll listen to them or go chase your dreams.

3. Focus on your positive qualities.

Everyone has good and bad sides. They are who you are, true. But the best you can do to feel better about yourself is to pay attention to the good ones – your skills, things you’re good at, things that others like about you and basically everything that’s optimistic and makes you feel good.

4. Give yourself compliments.

Instead of waiting for others to do that, why don’t you start noticing your good attributes and what you like about your appearance, character or way of thinking, and have it in mind more often?

5. Remember that what you think about yourself is most important.

Others don’t have a saying in this. It’s your life and your choices.

As soon as you realize that the only approval you need is yours, you’ll feel free as a bird, more confident, and will achieve much more.

Listening to others only makes you upset.

6. Work out.

Not only will you look better, but you’ll also be motivated, disciplined, live more healthy, and become confident and proud of yourself once you see results.

Find a sport you like and dedicate time to it. It’s absolutely worth it.

7. Constantly improve yourself.

Be okay with who you are but never stop challenging yourself and looking for ways to grow.

8. Wear clothes that make you feel good.

Appearance matters. And if you like what you see in the mirror, you’ll definitely have a better opinion of yourself.

Most people never realize that they’re wearing clothes that don’t show what they have, and make them look bad.

9. Don’t be afraid to talk about your accomplishments.

We’re taught not to brag, but these days people are afraid to even mention their successes because they may seem overconfident.

But what’s wrong with saying that you’ve worked hard on something, you’ve been promoted, lost weight, won a match?
Or even that you think you look better than you did a year ago, your muscles are bigger, you can run for miles without getting exhausted, have a lot of free time with your new job, have the perfect partner, etc.?

10. Personal hygiene.

That’s an important one. It always feels good to be clean and neat all the time. Don’t underestimate it.

11. Help others.

That will make you feel good about yourself too.

12. Learn new skills.

You’ll become more intelligent, open-minded, communicative and way more interesting if you learn new languages, try new sports, can play a musical instrument, hold a speech, cook, or else.

13. Work on your goals.

Last but not least, never stop doing something small every day in order to achieve what you’ve always wanted.

After considering some of these things, you can be sure that you’ll feel much better about yourself. And your life will change drastically.

Once I finished making this list I realized that these are just the things I’m doing with my life. Some of them I started recently, but just knowing that I’m working on some or all of these items makes me feel good about myself.
Hope you’ll feel this way too.

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Lidiya K

Lidiya K

Author, blogger and podcaster in the fields of self-improvement and life hacking. Creator of Let's Reach Success.
Full-time freelance writer. Lifestyle designer.
Lidiya K

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  1. Great post! I’ve been working on accepting myself and staying true to me (not who society says I should be), I’m not perfect but I love your advice about accepting yourself, making progress and improving. Thanks 🙂

  2. Acceptance is the key to so many things. Acceptance helps us move forward. We do not have to approve of something in order to accept it. It is what it is. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Personal Hygiene!!! I knew I was doing something wrong! I will be sure to wash today even though its not my birthday! lol I good post and I have found that we must also not let others down if we are to like the face we see in the mirror…

  4. Hi Lidiya, love the post!
    As a college student reading this who sometimes feels lonely in the big city and stressed from work, this was a great read 🙂 They are all great points, and 13 was a great one to read before I begin my studies for the day !

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