Focusing on The Right Reasons (and Getting Rid of Excuses)

Focusing on The Right Reasons, Let's Reach Success
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Our brain does a phenomenal job when it’s looking for reasons not to do something we’re afraid of.
Or when there’s even the slightest need of going out of our comfort zone, taking a risk, speaking up, doing something different or facing hardships in order to achieve it.

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Most of them are excuses, negative thoughts, our own limitations like fears and worries.

And I’m sure you’re perfectly aware of the fact that they aren’t true. And the best thing you can do at this moment is to act upon your desire, opportunity or goal, and not listen to your brain.

I’m not talking about ridiculous things or ones that put you in danger. I mean those that will take us to the life we deserve, the unique chances we need to take but which also requite hard work, time, the possibility of failing, breaking free from the comfort zone, making sacrifices and not listening to others.

It’s not easy and that’s why we’re looking for reasons not to do it at all.

Here’s an example.

I’ve always wanted to write and publish a book. And if I think about the reasons why I shouldn’t, I will eventually give up and my dream will never come true.

They are:

  • It will take a long, long time.
  • I can’t find that much inspiration and at some point I won’t have anything else to say.
  • People may not like it.
  • It may be a failure.
  • No one would probably even read it.
  • You should have built a name already and have a big audience to sell it. And I’m no one.
  • It may not look professional.
  • Writing it is not enough. There are many other things that need to be done – editing, formatting, promoting, etc.

But what if I focus on why I should write it:

  • People may actually like it.
  • I may inspire someone.
  • It will make me believe I’m a real author and give me the confidence to write better things.
  • I will feel more independent.
  • I may start making an income.
  • I will have a decent product on my blog.
  • I will start and finish a big personal project.
  • I will be proud of myself.
  • Other bloggers will take me more seriously.
  • It’s something I’ll eventually do, so it’s better to start now.
  • The feeling of publishing it will be amazing.
  • It will be a great experience. From then on, I’ll know my weak and strong sides, mistakes and unexpected problems throughout the writing process.

I can go on like that for the next hour. And I can also think of many more reasons not to do it.

I’m saying all this to remind you of how important what you focus on is.

It’s actually a matter of choice. When you have to take a decision, you’ll make a list in your head. And it’s crucial whether it will contain items in favor of or against doing the thing you want to do. Both lists can be quite convincing and will sound like the right thing to do.

In conclusion, I’ll say that whatever the situation is, you’ll do the right thing if you:

  • ignore the excuses your mind thinks of;
  • focus on the reasons why you should take action/start something new/ take a chance/ etc;
  • think of as many positive reasons as you can and remind yourself of them throughout the whole thing;
  • make the best of it.

So if you have an opportunity – take it, if you are secretly dreaming about something huge that takes courage – do it, if you have goals – start working on them right away. You won’t regret it.
This is what winners do, the way successful people think, how great ideas turn into reality and what you will wish you had done years from now.

P.S. I wrote this post almost a year ago. It was when I was trying to stay focused on finishing my first book “The Tao of Happiness”. It helped me stay motivated.

And now my second book is available – “This Moment”. It’s about living mindfully in the present moment and how to let go of past and future so that we can be right where we are and enjoy the now.

Lidiya K

Lidiya K

Author, blogger and podcaster in the fields of self-improvement and life hacking. Creator of Let's Reach Success.
Full-time freelance writer. Lifestyle designer.
Lidiya K

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  1. Each and every time I read your blog, I am inspired. However, I read your blog when my motivational fuel is low. The other times I am using that fuel is work toward my writing .

    There have been ups and down, but I do know I can always count on you to keep me in the loop of the writing world. Because, my writing goal was more lofty when I began this journey, I would be satisfied if I were only an inspiration to someone when they read my writing as I am reading your.

    To be a life line when someone is in need to continue writing, is better than the common things some say about continuing to write. In my mind, being unique and special makes a person stand far and above the rest of the crow. Doing something that cannot be duplicated is priceless, which is how I view reading your blog. So, in the mean time, I will continue my writing, hoping to improve, with you as weapon at my reach to fight that endless weakness toward my goal.

    1. Thank you so much for these kind words.
      Just keep writing, everything else will fall into place.
      Wish you all the best with your work and am so glad to have you as a reader on my blog 🙂

  2. “So if you have an opportunity – take it, if you are secretly dreaming about something huge that takes courage – do it, if you have goals – start working on them right away. You won’t regret it.”

    Thank you for your inspiration. We all need a refresher sometimes, and this post was timely for me. 🙂

  3. Taking things a step further already, huh Lidiya? Very nice, A brief, precise and signifcant way I like to put what you said is, “Get up and do something!”

    A lot of the times we do set self-limiting thoughts in our heads due to insecurity, self-image, failure-as you mentioned-and plenty others, all thanks to the impossibility mentality that is planted into our subconscious through:
    1) past experiences
    2) other people’s failures and not learning from them
    3) failing to learn from our own failures
    4) negative words brought on us
    5) lack of self-affirmtion to fight through the negaitivity

    Thanks for another vitally important post that we all need to constantly remember as we stick to the goals we set for ourselves and accomplish them the best way we can. Great job Lidiya 🙂

  4. I love this! I am a big believer in choosing to focus on the positives. There are always going to be outcomes that are out of our control, but we have the power over where we put our focus. Making that choice is so encouraging and empowering!

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