The Happiness Formula: How to Choose to Be Happy

Happiness is a choice.

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At each moment of the day, you make a decision, whether you realize it or not. It’s the result of your attitude towards life. And whatever it is—positive or negative—it affects all the events, people, relationships, and basically whatever it is that you encounter in your life.

So, if you’re living a complicated life with so many things to do and no time for yourself, it’s your fault.
If you have exactly what you’ve wanted and are thankful for it every day, you’re the one to blame.
If you’re surrounded by negative people, have a job you hate and can’t even sleep at night because of the many thoughts that pop up in your head constantly, no one else is responsible for that but you.
If you’re doing what you love, work hard but still find time for yourself and those you love, it’s due to a choice you’ve made at some point.

But there’s good news. Whatever your situation is, you can change it.

Happiness is absolutely possible at any time, it’s free, doesn’t depend on age, looks, career or income. Everyone deserves it and it doesn’t need to be found, reached, created, or anything else that requires effort.

Here is the happiness formula:

Letting Go + Acceptance + Gratitude

Call them skills, processes, qualities, goals, or else. They don’t really need to be defined. But these are three of the best things you can do with your life—let go of what was and will be, accept what is and be okay with it, thank for it and appreciate it.

That will make you the happy, contented person you’ve always wanted to become. You’ll find peace, will free yourself from the burden of the past and anxiety of the future, will start living in the present moment and will see all the beauty and abundance in your life by focusing on what you have and being grateful for it.

Now let’s discuss each element of the happiness formula separately.

This is a guest post I wrote for Lifehack. Read the rest of it here.

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  1. I choose to be happy everyday! I think that it is an important ingredient to a fulfilling life. The most difficult aspect of this revelation is choosing…choosing to change….choosing to be happy…choosing to have gratitude for the wonderful things in our lives. Your formula seems simple, but may be the most difficult in anyone’s life. The first step is to choose, the rest is gravy.

    Thanks for the great post.
    Cheers
    Jim

  2. I needed to read this post. I’m going through a somewhat troubling time in my life, and this is exactly what I needed to see. Thank you.
    Keep writing! You make a difference.
    Mandy, mandirito.wordpress.com

  3. Reblogged this on Your Gateway to Health and commented:
    Happiness is a choice. Everyday we are faced with choices and decisions to make. Making our choice, accepting the outcome, and having a sense of pride in our decision, are all a part of the process. If we are unhappy with that outcome, then we must choose to make the change that we wish to see. Expecting or waiting for others to make our choice, takes away our power and responsibility to choose.
    Have you ever started your day off with a broken shoelace? Did you let this ruin your entire day? Why? Choose to be in control of how you want to live, day by day. This sounds like a simple approach, yet too many people trudge through each day trying to blame someone or something for their unhappiness. What a tremendous amount of wasted time and energy. Look inside, find your happiness and share it with someone else.
    In fitness, Bob

  4. I really enjoyed reading this! It’s easy to place blame on others but it was refreshing to hear your honesty! If I don’t have time for myself, am surrounded by negative people, or hate my job, I’m the one to blame. But I do have the power to change it! Thanks for sharing!

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