A Shooting Star and The Importance of Knowing What You Want

Imagine it’s late at night and you’re looking out of the window because you can’t go to sleep.

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You see a shooting star. For the first time in your life.

You have no more than a few seconds to make a wish.

But you’ve got… nothing. Even you yourself are surprised by what’s going on in your head. You are trying to choose the best thing, the one you need the most. But still… nothing.

Should you ask for health for yourself and your family? For money? For happiness?
Or should it be something in the short term, something you need now? Like to get accepted in a good university? To find the dream job? Your diet to work out this time? To make someone like you? To finish your book?

And the moment is gone.

The shooting star is long gone and you are still standing there wondering what just happened. Because you realized that you don’t know what you want the most in your life. Or at all.

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The Problem

It’s a common thing these days for people not to know what they want and how to define it, not to say how to get it.

We have so many desires, such a wrong perception of happiness, so little motivation to evolve and achieve more, and get used to mundane life so easily, that we no more know what exactly it is that we want.

And without knowing it, we will never get it. And we will wander in the dark with no direction, no purpose and no path to follow.

This happens for a few reasons:

  • Too many goals at once;
  • No goals at all;
  • No motivation to improve ourselves;
  • We follow the crowd;
  • We haven’t defined what a good life means to us;
  • We don’t have priorities (and thus don’t know which of the things we want comes first on the agenda).

The Solution

Something needs to be done if we want to progress and level up in life. And the first step to transformation is understanding and defining our deepest desires.

Most people these days just wander around purposelessly. They think they are busy having their daily worries, commitments and tasks to do, but nothing is actually important and has any impact in the long term.

The thing is that we rarely stop to see the bigger picture and thus miss the real meaning of life. We no longer want value, we just want denial, relief, instant pleasure and easy and fast solutions.
But living this way means never changing and getting out of our comfort zone, which also means we’ll never see what life has to offer.

We can achieve anything we set our mind to and almost nothing is impossible with the opportunities we have.
But we need to have a clear vision of the things we want the most first.

A purpose is our personal mission statement, it’s what makes everything else count and gives meaning to every day of our lives. Once we’ve found it and started working on it, we will feel like never before. We will have our ‘why’ and our actions and decisions will be deliberate and conscious.

Β To find it you need to carefully think of:

  1. what you wanted as a child;
  2. the things you enjoy doing the most;
  3. the things you care about;
  4. people you look up to and why;
  5. what is your passion;
  6. what do you want to change in your life;
  7. what will it take to make these changes;
  8. where do you see yourself a year or two from now;
  9. notice how you feel while doing different things;
  10. Β when was the last time you felt really happy.

This is all it takes to find your true purpose and have a direction in life.

It may take some time and you need to be honest with yourself. I know most people don’t enjoy confronting their desires, regrets and facing the things they don’t like in their life, but this is the surest way to be happy and live the life you deserve.

Do this now so that you can spent the rest of your life going after your dreams and enjoy the process while doing it.

All the successful people in the world, the ones that have found what makes them happy and surrounded themselves with it, have started from defining what they really want.

This is what your passion looks like and if you define it and dedicate your time and energy to it, you will never have to work a day in your life. And you will probably be making much more money and have more satisfaction than you are in your current situation. Once you make your passion your lifestyle, career and hobby, your life will change tremendously.

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Lidiya K

Lidiya K

Author, blogger and podcaster in the fields of self-improvement and life hacking. Creator of Let's Reach Success.
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  1. Thank you for this most timely piece!! I was just journalling this very morning on the subject, and take this as an affirmation and encouragement from Holy Spirit to move deeper. Blessings of our gracious Father to you!!

      1. That was brain food for a hungry mind. πŸ™‚
        Once I found the reason I’m on this journey called “life,” “If you define it and dedicate your time and energy to it, you will never have to work a day in your life.” Whether you make money at it or not, isn’t as important as doing it. πŸ™‚

  2. Wonderfully articulated thoughts, yes purpose is our personal mission, once set and we find meaning in everything we do. Purpose and meaning gets interchangeably used, and also there is a deeper meaning in our purpose.

  3. Great post. I love how you started with a story. I’ve been experimenting with cutting everything but my biggest priorities out of my life, and it’s been very educational. Glad you shared this!

  4. Yes, indeed. ‘Reminds me of social meta-physicians. Many of us, admittedly or not lack the desire to invest in thinking for ourselves. It’s just too hard.. (We must build upthe tenacity to go break away from our illusions, and traverse beyond our comfort zones.)

    1. True. Illusions and living in the comfort zone are slowly killing us. But once we let go of them, we see what life has to offer πŸ™‚

  5. Thanks for stopping by my blog~ This is a great piece and very applicable to the situations that many of my students are facing now that they’re about to graduate. Sometimes amongst ourselves we wonder why we’re in grad – is it because we just didn’t know what else to do, or do we really have a passion for what we’re studying?

  6. I remember my first shooting star – Maine, working at a sleep away camp. First thought was amazement at the beauty. A simple wish for peace followed. A few days later I learned it was the beginning of the Persied meteor shower. — Still waiting for all those wishes to come true.

  7. Thank you! (All) I now have a clear understanding, for my 38 yr old wish. Not having one and or understanding this fact, can be blinding. Trust me, or try to consider after years, these few mins. reading about a beautiful grn/ fiery star I witnessed few nights ago. Has returned alittle glimpse of forgotten sight I’ve desperately needed to confirm still existed. Some ABC techniques/tools I read, over lil time might con’t to refresh my haulted brain activity, Ha! Damn! I sound how I feel now, not meaning to ramble. Collectively, I should have just thanked for the inspiration. Still more informed on a few ‘stars’, and sure someone didn’t understand my short story of emotions I Still Have Today. Ty

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